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Addiction, recovery, mental health, relationships, parenting, infertility, and self-care…

Erin Khar (Managing Editor at Ravishly and author of the popular weekly advice column Ask Erin) joins guest host Jessica Brodkin [Episode 11] in the MouthMedia Network studios powered by Sennheiser.

In this episode:

• Khar’s addiction to heroin for 15 years starting at 13 years old, and how she didn’t look like drug addic,t had straight As, lots of friends, no warning signs, etc.
• How her love for child was stronger than her hatred of self
• Learning how to take care of herself and walking through shame and depression that drove to use drugs
• Healing is confronting the parts of ourself we don’t want others to see, we let go of shame and that’s where healing starts
• How Khar lost her baby due to premature birth, and met Brodkin after having had four miscarriages prior to that,
• Khar’s incredible emotional pain, and it wasn’t about her head, it was about her soul
• A psychic medium suggested she needs to go to Reiki
• Khar’s believe that a silver lining of pain was growing closer to a spiritual connection than before, and how her family bonded than before
• Getting tested and being able to make her way through that, and people won’t able to confront things, so they will stay in toxic patterns,
• Part of self-care is to tell people “I feel __________”
• How Khar had a successful clothing line, and had challenges and stopped caring about it
• A chance encounter with a writer that led to started a blog called Rarely Wrong Erin (and eventually Ask Erin), due to her ability to recall random information, and then she got a job at Ravishly, ad is now the managing editor
• A lot of #METOO questions — of 60 questions per week 10-15 are about that topic
• The tricky topic of conditioning around consent
• Taking things people struggle with, so consent is frequently topical in her advice column
• The need for conversations about consent
• How fear is always worse than actually doing something
• Khar was feeling unlovable and living like the room was on fire until a switch flipped
• How she wants to bring hope because she was hopeless for a long time